Encountering God in Everyday Life

It is only February and It has been a tough year. I am finding many things to complain about from the lengthening list of unsolvable problems and loose ends.

It was during one of my several daily “what have you done for me lately” prayers that my litany of grievances was interrupted by Paul’s words in Philippians 3.

Paul writes of his life in verse 7 “But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things.”

I realized if Paul were in my shoes, he would pray something like, “as frustrated as I am, I am so blown away by my friendship with you through Jesus that I don’t need a thing more from you. I’m good.” To Paul, the surpassing worth of knowing Christ is so surpassing compared to his problems, that knowing Christ is all he needs. Christ is truly enough for him.

I have to concede that I am not there. I have to confess that there are things I want “in addition” to Jesus. Heck – there are things I want more than Jesus. Once again, God shows me something else he has forgiven me for – another thing Jesus died for. Once again, God shows another wrong that his love has covered over.

God, forgive me for finding your grace and love insufficient. Thanks for loving me anyways, and for saving me from trying to find salvation in things that cannot save me – in things other than my relationship with You. And although I keep looking and yearning after those things, you don’t hold it against me. I hope I can get to where Paul is one day. Until then, thanks for putting up with the complaining. Amen.

Grand Canyon

I have never been to Grand Canyon. In my imagination, there is a spot with a railing at which you look down a bottomless abyss. I imagine it’s an awe-inspiring sight – that is, unless you need to cross the bottomless pit to get to the other side.

This week, I talked to two people who are looking down at a bottomless pit, wondering how to get to the other side. They are knee deep in impossible circumstances where they realize they have come to the end of themselves, with no resource to get to where they need. They look across at where they need to be, and are force to admit it is entirely beyond them to get to.

It’s a hard place to be, especially for a guy – to feel completely helpless in crossing the bottomless pit, to take care of things and the people who depend on him to take care of things. It is an unfamiliar place for both men. And they are scared out of their wits they will not figure things out and lose their grip on everything that matter.

And both men found themselves praying. Not the polite Sunday recitals of a pew warmer, but heart wrenching, desperate cries for help kind of prayer.

God, please show up from them. Please don’t strand them on this side of the pit, for their sake and ours. Because we are watching to see what you will do, for the day we find ourselves looking over our pits. We need to see you rescue these two men so we can sleep knowing you will rescue us too.

Put it on my tab

There is a movie trailer recently where the smart-alecky star gets pulled over by a traffic cop and he says, “put it on my tab.”

It was in the middle of the Good Friday service this morning when I heard God say, “put it on my tab.” It’s a familiar analogy to what Jesus is doing on the cross that goes something like:

I just finished a feast in a fancy restaurant when I discover I don’t have my wallet. Just as the restaurant owner starts to get upset, Jesus jumps in between us and says to the owner, “just put it on my tab.”

I am not surprised then, looking up at the rough hewn prop cross on the stage, listening to dirges and dramatic readings on Good Friday about Jesus taking my place on the cross – picking up the tab for my sins, as it were.

But on this Good Friday, there is a twist. When I heard God say, “put it on my tab,” I am not the embarrassed customer who owes a debt – I am the restaurant owner. Just as I am getting ready to explode at the imbecile who is trying to stiff me, Jesus jumps in between us and says, “just put it on my tab.”

And on Good Friday, staring up at the prop cross, it’s hard to argue with the one who has also picked up my tab. At this particular moment, he’s got me where he wants me.

Doh! I thought he is on my side. I thought he is for me. You see, there happens to be a few people who is wearing on my last nerve at the moment, people who are handing me the short end of a stick for the fourth and fifth time. I want to get even. I want payback with interest. I want a pound of flesh. And Jesus tells me, “go ahead, just put it on my tab. I’ll cover it.”

But I have to be honest – as much as I know forgiveness is the right thing to do, and as much as I want to do the right thing, I have no idea how to do it. When I think of these people making camp on my last nerve, all I feel is the pain they inflicted on me.

So God, I don’t just need your account number, I need tuition fee and direction to the master’s class where you are going to show me how to do this forgiveness thing. Lord, have mercy.

Smooth Sailing

You’ve heard it said that “life is a marathon, not a sprint.” It’s true – that life is about making it to the finish line. And it is necessary to pace oneself and live strategically and intentionally, rather than to just go all out, all the time.

Remember a few years ago, when someone ran out of the crowd and into the path of the Olympic marathon front runner? The runner’s concentration broke and was overtaken by another runner who eventually took gold. Remember the outrage and the cries of foul play that this runner was unfairly interrupted?

Unfortunately, there are few cries of foul play everyday when, people find their life progress interrupted by things they don’t plan on: illness, unemployment, economic mishaps, divorce, death. Life is far from a well controlled Olympic race where unwanted interruptions are cordoned off. Crud happens. It flows into our paths and there is only so much we can do to avoid it.

Recently, I was talking to a friend who at 30 is in a professional crisis. He is a bona fide genius, not used to failing. So he is unnerved by the fact that for the first time in his life, he is actually in danger of losing employment. He keeps calling this a “setback”.

It is certainly a setback from the perspective of whatever career goals he has for his life, and whatever strategy he has to get there. But a life plan that does not expect challenges is like going on an ocean voyage and not expect sea storms. No one gets smooth sailing in life. Crud happens.

I suggested to my friend to change paradigm. It’s not so much a setback as it is a challenge. It’s time to hang on the God for dear life, and see if he is really as smart or as capable as he thinks he is. It’s time to roll up sleeves and get into the crud and find a way through.

Chances are, at 30, he is going to have a couple more of these challenges before he retires – that is, if crud of other sorts don’t flow in from other areas of his life. The only thing I know for sure is that God is in the crud with him, and that between his smarts and what God supplies, he has everything he needs to do battle.

The other night, Danny Crane on Boston Legal says to his friend, “some how the lights, the music…Christmas just makes everything better.” Christmas is God who comes into our crud and squats down with us, and helps us find a way through our challenges. The lights, the music and smell of greenery make the coffee breaks a little more pleasant.

What would you do tomorrow if you found out today you won the lottery and you now have all the money you need to live? Since you don’t have to work for a living anymore, and since you can literally do only the things you choose to do, what are some things you would stop doing? What are some things you would start doing more of? What are some important things you can now do because you have all the time and energy in the world?

Well I have news for you: you have won just such a lottery. And instead of a monthly cheque for the rest of your life, you get something even better – a God who promises to take care of your needs for the rest of eternity.

You find it hard to believe? It’s too good to be true? Do you dare to find out?

When God rescues the ancient Israelites from Egyptian Slavery (The Exodus Story), he instructs the newly freed slaves to keep Sabbath – the Jewish practice of doing no work one day each week.

Sabbath literally means “stop”. It is a day each week to catch our breath so we don’t miss living life in the process of making life happen. The luxury of a day of rest must sound like winning to lottery to the Israelites who have known only forced physical hard labour – the kind done while someone stands over them with a whip. As good as the Sabbath sounds, it would also be a huge test of their faith. Like us, they need to know if God really can and will take care of them. And like us, it takes faith to leave work undone and trust our world will not stop spinning, the sky will not fall, and there will be enough food on the table.

The Sabbath is indeed a luxury, only afforded to those with a God who promises to love and care for them. For those whose life is entirely up to them, they cannot risk rest and play. For them, constant vigilance is demanded of them lest the sky will fall.

Having a loving God is precisely the difference between the Israelites and their Canaanite neighbours. So in two places in the Old Testament, God gives instruction for this practice of “stopping work”. “Do no work on the Sabbath,” Exodus says, because God rested on the seventh day of his creation week. In Deuteronomy, they are told to stop work because they are not slaves anymore.

Children in that ancient culture show love for their dads through imitation. The Sabbath is an opportunity to imitate God in the way he takes time to appreciate his own handiwork, just as we imitate his creativity and craft the rest of the week like good children. We are children with a heavenly father, creatures with a God. In a properly ordered world, children and creatures find their security and livelihood from someone else, not from their own industry and work-ethic. The Sabbath is an intentional re-calibration of our centre on God as our source of security and livelihood. And along the way, we also re-centre our souls on things that really matter – our faith, people we love, play and leisure that keep us creative and human. The Sabbath is the antidote to the pressures of a self-made world which compels us to empire-build, hoard and trample for our own survival.

The Sabbath is also the way to safeguard from the tyrannical nature of work. Ex-slaves may be lured into thinking that hard work is the way to keep from becoming slaves again, only to end up enslaving themselves. Ex-slaves, having escaped the one holding they whip, have a way of finding comfort in new slave-masters. The Sabbath is a weekly practice of personhood – we do not live for work as slaves do. And if we are prone to forget that on the weekdays, the Sabbath is a day to correct the slave mindset.

But the Sabbath is not to be confused with a day off. Rather, it is a day on. It is the day when we practice being fully alive in the life God created us to live, enjoying the things God gives us for pleasure. At the end of the Sabbath, we re-enter our work life allowing our Sabbatical mindset to seep into the rest of our week. Our work may wear us down. But we know within six days, there will be the opportunity again to re-centre. So goes the rhythm of life as a creature loved by God, living outside of paradise. And the Sabbath is not so much taking time off, as it is honouring time. Everyone gets the same time in a day, and no one knows how much time they have left. On the Sabbath, we practice treating time as a gift, rather than a commodity.

Unlike the Jewish Sabbath which is sundown Friday to sundown Saturday, the Christian Sabbath can be any day that works for you. It begins at bedtime and ends at bedtime one day later – as a reminder that when wake up on Sabbath day, the day is already half over, that the world has gotten along just fine without us while we slept. Four things we need for a Sabbatical strategy: a plan and a place, for prayer and play.

Besides not working, the Sabbatical plan is your own personal declaration of independence. If you feel enslaved to something, the Sabbath is 24 hours where you are set free from your vices, with God’s help. For example, someone who watches a lot of TV can declare their independence by switching off. Someone who shops a lot can declare their independence by buying nothing on their Sabbath. Someone enslaved by schedules and clocks can declare their independence by not wearing a watch and making no appointments. Ask God to show you your slave masters, and you can declare your independence from them on your Sabbath by practicing to say no them.

The Sabbatical place is an environment where we feel free from work and vices, and clear a space for encountering God. Go to the place where you are most aware of God’s presence and your creatureliness. Go hiking if nature is your sanctuary. Go for a walk at night if the starry sky is where you feel closest to God. Get away from your desk, your unfinished homework or housework. It takes faith to do that, but it can all wait until tomorrow. Just because you can.

When we get to our Sabbatical place, we get all the time in the world to talk with God. Just as God takes in his creations on his first Sabbath, we get to kick back and talk to him about what we have done in our week. We get to celebrate the triumphs and make mental notes on things that need our attention. But this isn’t self-improvement. Working on us can wait until tomorrow. The Bible and other books can facilitate conversation with God. And don’t forget to make space to listen – because it is a conversation where God gets to talk as well.

Finally, the Sabbath is time to play – doing things with people we love for fun. On the Sabbath, we have all the time in the world to spend with people central to us, relationships that are our lifeline.

Many people tell me on their first Sabbath, they feel antsy or guilty for not working. This is almost the clearest indication of how far we have strayed from our Creator’s life rhythm, and why we need to stop. Some students tell me their grades improved when the learned to Sabbath. We may even live longer. But even if we don’t, at least we can say in our lives that God has given us all the time we needed for the most important things.

I tell people the most spiritual thing I do is keeping Sabbath – which is nothing. At least it is nothing the world considers successful. Everything I know about the Sabbath I learned from Eugene Peterson, and from authors like Marva Dawn and Abraham Heschel who have written on the topic. Credit for this article goes to them.

This article is a work in progress. Let me know what you think and I’ll keep rewriting as needed.

Bibliography

1. Abraham Heschel, The Sabbath (Canada: HarperCollins, 1951).
2. Marva Dawn, Keeping the Sabbath Wholly (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1989).
3. Guy Robbins Jr., And in the Seventh Day (New York: Peter Lang Publishing, 1995).
4. Eugene Peterson, “Confessions of a Former Sabbath Breaker.” Christianity Today, 2 September 1988, P.25-28.
5. ———————-, “The Pastor’s Sabbath.” Leadership, Spring 1985, P.55-56.
6. R. Paul Stevens and Phil Collins, The Equipping Pastor (The Alban Institute, 1993).
7. Emilie Griffin, The Reflective Executive (New York: Crossroads, 1993).
8. J.I. Packer, Growing in Christ (Wheaton, Il: Crossway Books, 1994).

I have a weevil problem. You know, these are those tiny beetles that make their way into our homes from store bought pasta and grains. We had an infestation a few years ago when we had to throw away every stick of pasta and every grain of rice in the house in order to get ahead of their breeding cycle.

Well, they are back. It started harmlessly enough. I noticed a few of them crawling around on our white tiled kitchen floor. I ignored them, wishfully hoping the problem would solve itself. It didn’t. By the time I took this pesky problem seriously, we had a outright disaster on our hands. I must have squashed a thousand of these things in the past couple of weeks. It has become a full time job.

About a week ago, after some research on Google, I realized killing them doesn’t solve the problem. I had to find out where the eggs are laid. I first found breeding grounds behind behind furniture. Wiping these down didn’t even make a dent to the bludgeoning population. So I pushed out the piano and found another colony. Then the refrigerator. Still they kept coming. Finally, I found a drawer with bits of leftover dry pasta. The content has been dumped and the drawer wiped down. Finally, we are ahead.

Almost. After a couple of weevil-free days. I just squashed about 10. Somewhere, there still lurks some eggs. The hunt continues.

As I squash these buggers, It’s becoming clear there is a spiritual lesson in there somewhere. But what would it be? Are the weevils metaphor for bad thoughts and ill-motives that lurk within the nooks and cranny of our soul – that we must vigilantly clear out? Or is it an object lesson of our need to take care of business before problems snowball into a runaway disaster?

For today, I am going with neither. For today, the weevils remind me of my shortcomings and failures as a flawed person cannot be exterminated through effort alone. The pesky beetles are as annoying to me as I am to others when I act selfishly, fallenly towards them. No amount of vigilance and pro-activity I can muster up is going to make me perfect.

A friend of mine says “trying to be good enough for God is like trying to swim to Japan.” It doesn’t matter how good a swimmer we are, we will still drown because Japan is just too far. We can all work to be better. Perfection, however, is humanly impossible.

That’s why we need God’s grace – that character of God which allows him to put up with our continuing imperfections. And that’s why we need to mimic that grace towards ourselves and others. Because none of us are good enough to swim to Japan.

As much as I hate to admit, it seems no amount of hard work is going to completely eliminate the weevils. I am just going to have to live with some of them for a while and hope for a miracle. I am going to have to extend some grace for the creatures, and for myself for not being able to kill them off perfectly.

Gray

In the middle of “3:10 to Yuma”, I realized I’ve seen this movie before – and not the old original. A few weeks ago, I rented a DVD called “The Contract” with Morgan Freeman and John Cusack with the exact same premise.

Basically, a “cowardly” dad who is struggling to keep his teenager son’s respect finds himself on a trek to deliver a vicious criminal to justice. Along the journey, negotiating obstacles and chased by more bad guys, the dad and the villain discover some commonality in each other as human beings beyond their “labels”. We learned there was more to the dad than met the eye, there was some good in the completely evil man, and the son found new respect for his dad. We are challenged to consider that life and people are not simply one thing or another, but gray.

Think of it: instead of labeling people as strong or weak, smart or dumb, brave or cowardly, good or bad, we have to make room for the possibility that we are all these things, all mixed up together like the gray blob in the middle of a paint palette.

The world we live in is increasingly gray. As I type, the very “bad” leader of Iran just wrapped up a visit to Columbia University in New York. This morning, Regis shrugged bewilderedly about why someone would invite someone like that to America to speak.

Tough one. In our world, we are expected to suspend judgment in order to give everyone a proper hearing. Furthermore, we are to respect everyone’s opinions, choices and points of view. I find this easier said than done. Some people think of this as living without a spine. I admire the people who do this well – the ability to suspend judgment long enough to hear someone out.

On one hand, I am opinionated – I know what I think. And I was brought up to believe there is honor and integrity in “acting” as we think, all the time – black or white. On the other hand, I realize cannot simply “write off” people whom I disagree with. I need to talk with an open mind to people who think differently than I if I were ever to grow – either deeper in my own convictions or change my mind about something I am wrong about.

Although I didn’t totally buy Batman as a wimpy cowardly farmer in the movie, I was moved by the friendship and respect that developed between the dad and the villain. Two people on opposite sides (in this case – the law) through interaction, saw something “new” and good in another person. They had something in them that allowed that growth. Jesus calls it grace.

For myself, I think I am going to start by losing the words “you should” from my vocabulary. It’s a start for me to stop assuming I know what others “should” do. I am not giving up what I think. I just want to make room for the possibilities of other points of view.

Here’s to taking a page from Batman and the Gladiator.

Loving God

The other day when I was in a sort of automated prayer mode, I caught myself saying, “I love you” to God, as I often do. As with other times when this happened, I was stopped dead in my tracks. It’s not that some how I don’t love God, or that I feel guilty about how I am living my life. It’s just that I realize I am not sure about the quality of my love for God. I am not clear how well I am loving God.

A similar thing happened a while back when I wanted to write a love song to God. I wanted to tell God how “much” I love him. Except the words that came out felt so embarrassingly fluffy, I ended up writing a song about how my love for God will always be dwarfed by his love for me. In the shadow of the cross where Jesus hanged because he willingly came to risk and lose his life to recover me to my Creator, my “expressions” of love are anaemic. There is no way I can even imagine enacting an expression of love which comes close to how God loves me.

Who am I kidding to compare my love with God’s love? I think my 4 year old nephew offers more genuine love than I. Truth be told: I am not sure what I call love bears any resemblance to true love at all. Jesus tells me to love God by loving people, including people who cause me pain. Right. I can’t even honestly say that I genuinely love the people I like, let alone people who have hurt me, people who scare me, people I dislike, and heaven forbid – people I hate. There are moments when I am so overrun by my “self” that I don’t think I am capable of love at all. At best, my “love” is contaminated, never free from the poisoning of selfish motives.

So much for writing God a love song.

In the way God’s almightiness and his all-lovingness make people think about suffering, my powerlessness and my self-centreness lead me to surrender to God’s grace – my need for it, and my gratitude for its abundant supply. Because I fall far short of God’s standard of love even on my best of days, on the days when I am at my most generous. Even when I want to, I am unable to love in the way God asks me to love, the way he loves me.

And I have no choice but to submit myself to the mercy of God’s Spirit, who is tasked to enact love through me – by inspiring me to want to love, receive my feeble morsels of good intentions, crumble them up, and then transform and multiply them into something that can bless and feed a crowd. I don’t know how he does this. I just need him to do it if I am to love.

I still want to tell God I love him. I just need to keep in mind I need his Spirit to make my words true. I rely on him to make my words into a love song true. Anything else is just elevator music.

Feeling God

I am not sure exactly how we feel God. We don’t have an organ to sense him like the way our ears feel air pressure or eyes feel light rays. I suppose God, whom I believe made us, has the manual to us and knows what cells to push to create a God sensation in us. Perhaps there are God-signals that come to us in the way microwaves come to our phones. Of course non-believers may say I make God up. If only it were that easy.

When I was sixteen or so, I went through one tough year spiritually when God felt distant and remote. I can hear my prayers echoing back at me as if they just hit a wall. I felt nothing getting through to me from God, and nothing of me getting through to God. If I could, I would have made something up just to end the frustration.

An older brother type at Church advised me to read the Bible, and pray more. It didn’t work. “I feel like I am going crazy,” I remember saying to him. Nothing I did could make up that God sensation. No stomping of feet or jumping up and down could make God appear.

I led worship and preached at a start-up Church last Sunday. C, who is not a Christian but has been asking questions came with her sisters to Church. It was a tough morning for me due to technical issues with the Powerpoint presentation. I had to be extra alert during the worship saying things off the cuff when slides went missing.

During the coffee break between singing and sermon, I walked over to the sisters and one of them said, “you moved C.” I thought they were cracking a joke and started to laugh. I caught my chuckle mid-throat when I looked down and saw C overcome with emotions.

That’s when she explained how she’s been frustrated at not being able to feel God. She been asking questions and investigating. She learns things that make sense. But she feels nothing. So when she felt a stirring in her somewhere between the third and fourth song. She was thrilled. But when the singing ended, she just started crying.

Later on our way to lunch, she stood at the crosswalk waiting for the light to change, thinking about her encounter. She heard a question in her head, “what’s keeping you from crossing over to God?”

It’s a good thing we can’t make up God. Because a god we make up can’t really do much for us. And God being God, doesn’t stroke us on demand. He is not at our beck and call, jumping to attention just because we snap our fingers. He promises to be with us all the time. But feeling that presence is something else. That’s a gift it seems – given when he deems it necessary. The rest of the time, we can but wait at his mercy. But when he comes, it’s something else. There’s nothing like it.

You’re That Guy

In the “Die Hard” movie franchise, John McClane is the reluctant hero who for years keeps finding himself in impossible situations. One moment he is waiting for his wife at the airport, or bored out of his mind at her office Christmas party. And all of a sudden he is dodging bad-guys bullets and moving vehicles. In this latest installment – Live Free or Die Hard, he even dukes it out with a jet fighter: semi-trailer versus jet fighter – it’s over-the-top fun.

In a dialogue moment, his sidekick asks why he wants to be the hero. He explains to his young friend he does heroics only because there is no one else. He becomes “that guy” when there is no one else to do the thing that needs doing. When the young man saves his life and says something like, “well, someone has to.” McClane replies, “you’re that guy.” I guess his point is you don’t always get to choose your battles. Sometimes, you just gotta do what you gotta do.

He got me thinking about the stuff we don’t get to choose in life. No one chooses disease, losing a loved one, a hard-to-love relative, falling out of love – just to name a few. It’s never easy to just do the right thing – or anything resembling Jesus would do. But sometimes, you just gotta. Sometimes, it does just come down to doing what we know we have to in order to take care of our responsibilities and relationships.

So God bless you – you, the real life John McClane’s of everyday heroes who keep doing what you do, choosing what you choose even when it’s easier to not. No one is making a movie about you, or nominating you for an award. You don’t get applauded when you walk down the sidewalk, or a standing ovation at the end of the day. At best, you just get the satisfaction of being able to look yourself in the eye every night in the mirror, knowing you are doing the best you can in a messy world.

“You’re that guy.”

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